Q: Are you in the zone?
"I'm just trying to get uncomfortable"
You might worry about someone who said that to you. Our beds, cars, office chairs are all designed for comfort. Truly, comfort is good.
But comfort is bad for growing. You many think of comfort as anti-growth. Children learn to walk, fall down. Athletes strengthen through rigorous and uncomfortable training. Without being outside of their comfort zone, they would never improve.
Seeking discomfort in our relationships seems illogical, doesn't it? Out work, our family, our friends: always striving for comfort with them will cause dysfunction. Issues that need to change won't. Problems that need exposure remain concealed. Growth takes getting out of our comfort zone. IT may take giving bad news, asking tought questions or even getting tough answers about ourselves. Just as athletes improve through training, our momentary discomfort will stretch our comfort zone and strengthen us.